This conversation is like an insiders “how-to” on tuning into your own inner compass for revelation and healing. From themes of self-love, to trusting yourself, to objectification and body dysmorphia, we’re having a mind-expanding conversation on self-recovery with our beloved teacher Kiran Trace.
In today’s episode we're talking about a recent weekend we spent together in Ithaca going to an event Adyashanti was having there. We do a general download on what it was like to be with him, but more specifically we point to his lens on what it means to trust your life. This is really the heart of this path.
Recently we have been seeing the idea of "purpose" differently in our lives. Much of why it’s been so interesting for us to untie this is that the whole concept of our lives and who we are get woven into the boxes we can put ourselves into when we try to define or mold our life's purpose.
This week is a Dear Bliss and Grit episode. We’re exploring the subtle edges of relationships as we answer a listeners question on love. The major theme of the conversation being- how do we cope in a relationship when our partners difficult circumstances prevent our needs from being met?
if you are an empath- or a highly sensitive person, or a sensey as we like to say- you’ve probably gotten really good at some management techniques for how to not get overwhelmed by the world. But what if instead you could learn how to land in yourself- I mean really inhabit yourself- so that you didn’t feel at the whims of your environment and you didn’t feel like you needed to be vigilant against your environment and your sensey self?
How can we experience energy within and around ourselves? Why is it important- or even interesting- to look at energy in relation to healing and wholeness?
Today’s episode is a little different. Vanessa and I both have some June travels, so we missed a recording week. This episode is an interview with Judith Blackstone, the founder of The Realization Process- which Vanessa and I both became certified in this spring. I did this interview originally over on my other show, Liberated Body.
Whether we’re talking about gaining more psychological health, or the big ole wake up call of the spiritual path, either way you are eventually going to shed some part of yourself that used to feel like you- both to yourself and to those around you- and then... what happens next?! Vanessa and I are talking about navigating the identity crises that are a natural part of any healing journey.
Today's episode is a "Dear Bliss+Grit" in which we’re responding a listeners question on Self-Compassion. Is there no place for self-discipline? For pushing yourself to do things that you know could be good for you even though you don’t want to? How can you differentiate between fear holding you back from taking an action vs a genuine yearning for another experience?
In today’s episode we're talking about the importance of having “people” with you on the spiritual path. Today Vanessa and I are talking about a number of things related to this- coming out of the spiritual closet, all the typical human things that come up in real sanghas, how to find your people or even just one person, and why supportive community is so important.
Today’s episode is all about Self-compassion. We got a lot of responses after our Pain Bodies in Action episode and we thought it was time to speak about what to do as you’re noticing these old wounds- which includes a whopping dose of self-compassion. From breaking down the nuance of self-compassion to karma to discussing how to find safety in the body, we’re all up in the compassion conversation.
In today’s episode we're talking about a snippet of Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth that caught my eye: He says that if we approach everything in life with acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm then we will- essentially- not be suffering and will be in the present moment. I usually hate things that feel like a blueprint to a happy life but, I gotta say, this one’s got some good bones!
In this episode we’re talking about the experiences we’ve had on the embodied spiritual path- including touching into our own pain bodies. Actually we’re literally experiencing our pain bodies while recording making for an extra revelatory talk! We know you’ve heard us use the term before so in this episode we share some definitions of what a pain body actually is.
There are certain signature spiritual bypasses evoke shame in other people therefore shutting them down and, well, making them feel like they suck at life. It can be a masterful manipulation- the one we’ve seen many a guru behaving badly employ... We have a few choice words to say about it in today's episode.
In this episode we’re talking about what Vanessa playfully calls the “Bubble of Pain”- aka a circular pattern of self-referencing that leaves us feeling at the center of a painful reality. Many of us have felt how much it hurts to take things personally. Yet even after recognizing the cost, we still can find ourselves stuck, habitually believing that everything is about us- most commonly about how we’re not enough in some way.
Why are we- culturally- people who think we need to know things? There is an underlying assumption that we can know definitive capital T truths- and we want bedrock answers. We want to avoid the feeling of groundlessness that comes with not definitively knowing things. The trouble with that is that we look outside of ourselves for prescriptions of how to live.
How do you know what’s truly right for you? What happens when you say yes only to later feel tired and grumpy? Your ability to stay true to your inner yes and no is the most basic affirmation of your right to exist as you are, yet so many of us are challenged in this arena.
A funny thing... for all of our happiness chasing, we’re actually not exactly whizzes at pointing the compass towards ease or true pleasure. The same striving that keeps us chasing happiness keeps us from actually resting into the more delicious and delightful parts of being human. So lest you think we’re glorifying suffering- in today’s episode we're talking about navigating towards some more of the yummy that life has to offer.
We’ve spoken a lot about how you should just “stop. drop and feel,” but many of us were never taught how to meet our emotional experience in a healthy manner. We’re prone to venting or repressing.
We are a culture of happiness chasers, as in chasing that thing in the future that is going to deliver happiness. But how is your actual life, your actual feelings, your actual shit- i.e. the stuff happening now and not in some magical future- the real path to contentment in our lives?