The Realization Process with Judith Blackstone (41)

Today’s episode is a little different. Vanessa and I both have some June travels, so we missed a recording week. This episode is an interview with Judith Blackstone, the founder of The Realization Process- which Vanessa and I both became certified in this spring. I did this interview originally over on my other show, Liberated Body.

Identity Crisis (40)

Whether we’re talking about gaining more psychological health, or the big ole wake up call of the spiritual path, either way you are eventually going to shed some part of yourself that used to feel like you- both to yourself and to those around you- and then... what happens next?! Vanessa and I are talking about navigating the identity crises that are a natural part of any healing journey.

Self-Compassion Part 2 (39)

 

Today's episode is a "Dear Bliss+Grit" in which we’re responding a listeners question on Self-Compassion. Is there no place for self-discipline? For pushing yourself to do things that you know could be good for you even though you don’t want to? How can you differentiate between fear holding you back from taking an action vs a genuine yearning for another experience?

The Importance of Community (38)

In today’s episode we're talking about the importance of having “people” with you on the spiritual path. Today Vanessa and I are talking about a number of things related to this- coming out of the spiritual closet, all the typical human things that come up in real sanghas, how to find your people or even just one person, and why supportive community is so important.

Self-Compassion Along the Way (37)

Today’s episode is all about Self-compassion. We got a lot of responses after our Pain Bodies in Action episode and we thought it was time to speak about what to do as you’re noticing these old wounds- which includes a whopping dose of self-compassion. From breaking down the nuance of self-compassion to karma to discussing how to find safety in the body, we’re all up in the compassion conversation. 

Acceptance, Enjoyment, Enthusiasm (36)

In today’s episode we're talking about a snippet of Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth that caught my eye: He says that if we approach everything in life with acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm then we will- essentially- not be suffering and will be in the present moment. I usually hate things that feel like a blueprint to a happy life but, I gotta say, this one’s got some good bones!

Pain Bodies In Action (35)

In this episode we’re talking about the experiences we’ve had on the embodied spiritual path- including touching into our own pain bodies. Actually we’re literally experiencing our pain bodies while recording making for an extra revelatory talk! We know you’ve heard us use the term before so in this episode we share some definitions of what a pain body actually is. 

Fuck Spiritual Shame (34)

There are certain signature spiritual bypasses evoke shame in other people therefore shutting them down and, well, making them feel like they suck at life. It can be a masterful manipulation- the one we’ve seen many a guru behaving badly employ... We have a few choice words to say about it in today's episode. 

The Self-Referencing Bubble: How to Quit Taking Things Personally (33)

In this episode we’re talking about what Vanessa playfully calls the “Bubble of Pain”- aka a circular pattern of self-referencing that leaves us feeling at the center of a painful reality. Many of us have felt how much it hurts to take things personally.  Yet even after recognizing the cost, we still can find ourselves stuck, habitually believing that everything is about us- most commonly about how we’re not enough in some way.

Holding Space for Not Knowing (32)

Why are we- culturally- people who think we need to know things? There is an underlying assumption that we can know definitive capital T truths- and we want bedrock answers. We want to avoid the feeling of groundlessness that comes with not definitively knowing things. The trouble with that is that we look outside of ourselves for prescriptions of how to live. 

Seek Ease and Choose Pleasure (30)

A funny thing... for all of our happiness chasing, we’re actually not exactly whizzes at pointing the compass towards ease or true pleasure. The same striving that keeps us chasing happiness keeps us from actually resting into the more delicious and delightful parts of being human. So lest you think we’re glorifying suffering- in today’s episode we're talking about navigating towards some more of the yummy that life has to offer.

Chasing Happiness (28)

We are a culture of happiness chasers, as in chasing that thing in the future that is going to deliver happiness. But how is your actual life, your actual feelings, your actual shit- i.e. the stuff happening now and not in some magical future- the real path to contentment in our lives?

Healing a Broken Heart (27)

In this weeks episode we’re looking at how to recover from the loss of a relationship- from knowing your own resiliency, to releasing old pain from your soma that leaves you unable to tolerate more tension, to learning how to receive from a support system we’re exploring how we can heal a broken heart.

The Gifts of Grief and Despair (26)

In today’s episode we're talking about grief and despair- so cheery of us! But really it is cheery of us! We’re talking about how our culture doesn’t have a framework for how to really sit with and metabolize grief and despair and what the costs of that are. Nobody wants to experience these painful emotions, and so we find all kinds of ways to avoid them. Yet there is also something so alive about it. As Vanessa says in this episode, “Touching into temporality is a really potent wake up force if you let it be.

Where to Begin (25)

 In response to many listeners questions about how to find a path and/or a teacher we’re discussing how we got started on our way, whether people need to commit to a path or a teacher, how we found our mentors, and of course some of the pitfalls to look out for along the way.