We're pondering the age old question, “Am I responsible for others?” It’s a trickier question than at first glance- it can be utilized and lived out in a myriad of ways. If we can’t fix, control or save people, and if doing the spiritual person disappearing act isn’t helpful, what does genuine responsibility to one another look like?
This week’s episode is about exploring the ways in which we can come to identify with ourselves as “someone with problems.” Acknowledging aspects of ourselves that are unhealed or messy can be painful, yet we can still have this funny way of seeing and representing ourselves as the broken one.
It seems in spiritual worlds we swing the pendulum between ignoring the body completely to making it the total focus of attention. What do those extremes look like and what might a useful middle way be?
In this episode we’re talking about what happens when you lose the sense that you “have it all together.” As humans we’re always trying to pin things down. We want to categorize, create step-by-step action plans, essentially identify and solidify life, including ourselves. As we evolve on our own paths, we’re noticing that our ability to conceive of ourselves as people who have it all together is slipping through our fingers, and we’ve got a lot to say about why that’s challenging. In the process though, we’re also offering a potential new way to orient towards life as the ability to pin things down falls away.
In this conversation we get into our own tender spots, as we always do, but this time with gifted teacher Jeannie Zandi holding space. We talk about inadequacy and unworthiness, fear, outright terror, and the desire to finally get it together and have it all tidied up. We discuss trauma, the inner tendency to push and to eradicate all the “badness” in us, and our dominant culture of unhealthy yang from within which can barely even fathom healthy yin. We talk dark night, the creature of the body, and mercy, mercy, mercy for this whole human journey.
Today we’re talking about what can be called the “unseen worlds.” We’re all connected to vast amounts of wisdom and resources, yet so often we’re not consciously aware of it. Naturally, much of this talk circles back to major themes such as learning to listen and trusting your life.
We all want more peacefulness but we can’t tranquilize ourselves into peacefulness. When we use our paths as a kind of energetic lid on things we don’t want to face t’s not just a desire for peace- it is a fear mechanism. We talk about how the labor of facing the things that aren’t in alignment for us can indeed be painful, but as with any birth there is something else on the other side of all that labor.
In this episode we get into what our thoughts and personal experiences are on what awakening actually means, why we find it vulnerable to talk about, and of course how we support ourselves in what we believe is the path towards living our fullest human potential.
Today’s episode is a Dear Bliss and Grit- which means one of our lovely listeners wrote us in a question and we had a bunch to say about it! Thank you Jeannie for emailing this one over. Jeannie’s question gets to the heart of attachment issues and spirituality. We unpack what the different attachment styles are, and how we can often choose spiritual practices and paths that can deepen our own attachment issues. And ultimately how can we work with self-compassion and loving whatever arises to make ourselves more available for secure and satisfying bonding with others.
We're thinking about the role the nervous system might play in our awakening to truth. We talk a lot about concepts like fear vs love, or fear vs clarity, but is there benefit to exploring fear through the lens of our nervous system and limbic brain? Does that exploration create more softness in us, or does it trigger a shame spiral that births more fear?
We are having a highly unprocessed talk about how we are now seeing the million tiny no’s that we say to ourselves all the time, and that we notice everyone saying to themselves and to the world as well. But what does saying yes to what we find really look like? What’s the difference between tolerance, warmth, and really loving things?
Over the years of self exploration it’s become clear how very much our own desires for approval can drive our choices and cloud out our clarity. Of course, it’s pretty human to want to be accepted by others, but what happens when you do it at you’re own expense?
What came up for us in our last couple of episodes is the way we separate ourselves into “me” and “my body”- and how that separation- that perception that we are NOT our bodies- is where we objectify ourselves and lose access to the wisdom of the body.
This conversation is like an insiders “how-to” on tuning into your own inner compass for revelation and healing. From themes of self-love, to trusting yourself, to objectification and body dysmorphia, we’re having a mind-expanding conversation on self-recovery with our beloved teacher Kiran Trace.
In today’s episode we're talking about a recent weekend we spent together in Ithaca going to an event Adyashanti was having there. We do a general download on what it was like to be with him, but more specifically we point to his lens on what it means to trust your life. This is really the heart of this path.
Recently we have been seeing the idea of "purpose" differently in our lives. Much of why it’s been so interesting for us to untie this is that the whole concept of our lives and who we are get woven into the boxes we can put ourselves into when we try to define or mold our life's purpose.
This week is a Dear Bliss and Grit episode. We’re exploring the subtle edges of relationships as we answer a listeners question on love. The major theme of the conversation being- how do we cope in a relationship when our partners difficult circumstances prevent our needs from being met?
if you are an empath- or a highly sensitive person, or a sensey as we like to say- you’ve probably gotten really good at some management techniques for how to not get overwhelmed by the world. But what if instead you could learn how to land in yourself- I mean really inhabit yourself- so that you didn’t feel at the whims of your environment and you didn’t feel like you needed to be vigilant against your environment and your sensey self?
How can we experience energy within and around ourselves? Why is it important- or even interesting- to look at energy in relation to healing and wholeness?
Today’s episode is a little different. Vanessa and I both have some June travels, so we missed a recording week. This episode is an interview with Judith Blackstone, the founder of The Realization Process- which Vanessa and I both became certified in this spring. I did this interview originally over on my other show, Liberated Body.