The Spiritual Path is Not a Benzo (54)

We all want more peacefulness but we can’t tranquilize ourselves into peacefulness. When we use our paths as a kind of energetic lid on things we don’t want to face t’s not just a desire for peace- it is a fear mechanism. We talk about how the labor of facing the things that aren’t in alignment for us can indeed be painful, but as with any birth there is something else on the other side of all that labor.

Attachment Issues and Spirituality (52)

Today’s episode is a Dear Bliss and Grit- which means one of our lovely listeners wrote us in a question and we had a bunch to say about it! Thank you Jeannie for emailing this one over. Jeannie’s question gets to the heart of attachment issues and spirituality. We unpack what the different attachment styles are, and how we can often choose spiritual practices and paths that can deepen our own attachment issues. And ultimately how can we work with self-compassion and loving whatever arises to make ourselves more available for secure and satisfying bonding with others.

The Awakening Nervous System (51)

We're thinking about the role the nervous system might play in our awakening to truth. We talk a lot about concepts like fear vs love, or fear vs clarity, but is there benefit to exploring fear through the lens of our nervous system and limbic brain? Does that exploration create more softness in us, or does it trigger a shame spiral that births more fear?

Actually Loving What Arises (50)

We are having a highly unprocessed talk about how we are now seeing the million tiny no’s that we say to ourselves all the time, and that we notice everyone saying to themselves and to the world as well. But what does saying yes to what we find really look like? What’s the difference between tolerance, warmth, and really loving things?

The Need for Approval (49)

Over the years of self exploration it’s become clear how very much our own desires for approval can drive our choices and cloud out our clarity. Of course, it’s pretty human to want to be accepted by others, but what happens when you do it at you’re own expense?

Body As Object or Body As Self? (48)

What came up for us in our last couple of episodes is the way we separate ourselves into “me” and “my body”- and how that separation- that perception that we are NOT our bodies- is where we objectify ourselves and lose access to the wisdom of the body.

Finding Truth in Your Body: An Interview with Kiran Trace (47)

This conversation is like an insiders “how-to” on tuning into your own inner compass for revelation and healing. From themes of self-love, to trusting yourself, to objectification and body dysmorphia, we’re having a mind-expanding conversation on self-recovery with our beloved teacher Kiran Trace. 

Trust Your Life: Reflections on a Weekend with Adyashanti (46)

In today’s episode we're talking about a recent weekend we spent together in Ithaca going to an event Adyashanti was having there. We do a general download on what it was like to be with him, but more specifically we point to his lens on what it means to trust your life. This is really the heart of this path. 

Purpose (45)

Recently we have been seeing the idea of "purpose" differently in our lives. Much of why it’s been so interesting for us to untie this is that the whole concept of our lives and who we are get woven into the boxes we can put ourselves into when we try to define or mold our life's purpose.

Life as an Empath (43)

if you are an empath- or a highly sensitive person, or a sensey as we like to say- you’ve probably gotten really good at some management techniques for how to not get overwhelmed by the world. But what if instead you could learn how to land in yourself- I mean really inhabit yourself- so that you didn’t feel at the whims of your environment and you didn’t feel like you needed to be vigilant against your environment and your sensey self?

The Realization Process with Judith Blackstone (41)

Today’s episode is a little different. Vanessa and I both have some June travels, so we missed a recording week. This episode is an interview with Judith Blackstone, the founder of The Realization Process- which Vanessa and I both became certified in this spring. I did this interview originally over on my other show, Liberated Body.

Identity Crisis (40)

Whether we’re talking about gaining more psychological health, or the big ole wake up call of the spiritual path, either way you are eventually going to shed some part of yourself that used to feel like you- both to yourself and to those around you- and then... what happens next?! Vanessa and I are talking about navigating the identity crises that are a natural part of any healing journey.

Self-Compassion Part 2 (39)

 

Today's episode is a "Dear Bliss+Grit" in which we’re responding a listeners question on Self-Compassion. Is there no place for self-discipline? For pushing yourself to do things that you know could be good for you even though you don’t want to? How can you differentiate between fear holding you back from taking an action vs a genuine yearning for another experience?

The Importance of Community (38)

In today’s episode we're talking about the importance of having “people” with you on the spiritual path. Today Vanessa and I are talking about a number of things related to this- coming out of the spiritual closet, all the typical human things that come up in real sanghas, how to find your people or even just one person, and why supportive community is so important.

Self-Compassion Along the Way (37)

Today’s episode is all about Self-compassion. We got a lot of responses after our Pain Bodies in Action episode and we thought it was time to speak about what to do as you’re noticing these old wounds- which includes a whopping dose of self-compassion. From breaking down the nuance of self-compassion to karma to discussing how to find safety in the body, we’re all up in the compassion conversation. 

Acceptance, Enjoyment, Enthusiasm (36)

In today’s episode we're talking about a snippet of Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth that caught my eye: He says that if we approach everything in life with acceptance, enjoyment, or enthusiasm then we will- essentially- not be suffering and will be in the present moment. I usually hate things that feel like a blueprint to a happy life but, I gotta say, this one’s got some good bones!

Pain Bodies In Action (35)

In this episode we’re talking about the experiences we’ve had on the embodied spiritual path- including touching into our own pain bodies. Actually we’re literally experiencing our pain bodies while recording making for an extra revelatory talk! We know you’ve heard us use the term before so in this episode we share some definitions of what a pain body actually is.