We’ve talked about bypass in the last several episodes as seeking to only feel bliss, to avoid the messiness of a human life and human emotions. Which can bring up the idea that maybe we really need to double down on the grittiness of life in order to be on a genuine path. What about when suffering becomes the bypass of choice- as always, unconsciously and in innocence- we can often subconsciously emphasize the struggle. Or over-tolerate the struggle. In which case we lose access to joy, to ease, to the nourishing movements of life.
Amoda Maais a contemporary spiritual teacher, speaker, and author of Embodied Enlightenment. In our conversation with Amoda, we speak of course about being fully awake and fully human, we touch on spiritual bypassing, agendas, tenderness, and common misconceptions about the spiritual path.
Spiritual bypass is commonly held up as what the spiritual path IS. When in fact, it is in direct opposition to what the path is. As Dorothy Hunt says in her book Ending the Search, "Spiritual concepts and spirit are not the same thing... It is the use of an idea of spirituality that keeps us unconscious.” Or as Vanessa says, bypass is using the spiritual path to avoid your shit. Usually while wearing the identifiers we call “spiritual person”.
In this conversation we are talking with Dorothy Hunt about her recent book, Ending the Search. We explore what the term awakening means to her and what it would look like to “end the search.” We also speak on unconditional vs conditional love, how we can come closer to our true identity, what it means to be fully human, and so much more.
Today we’re talking about agendas that we are frequently, unconsciously and in innocence, acting out in our lives. These agendas may have helped our younger selves to feel safe but they are not who we fundamentally are, and they can create exactly the opposite of what we are desiring in our lives. We call out some of the top agendas that we all take on- the tough one, the victim, the martyr, the good girl or boy. On a relative level these agendas are creating repetitive painful patterns in our lives. And it’s nice to have lives that hurt less and are more satisfying on a soul level.
In today’s episode we’re speaking about what we’re calling micro-shaming; which we could describe as the subtle ways we can inadvertently shame people for being different than us. This topic felt especially relevant in this day and age where we have so many “gurus” out there giving well-intentioned, but sometimes unhelpful, advice that may be creating patterns in shame in us without us even noticing.